Thursday, October 6, 2011

What do you say?

There are moments that arise in life that leave us speechless. Either we have no words, or don't know which are the right ones. I feel like that has been happening to me a lot lately. I have a friend going through a hard time and I just never know what to say to her. Nothing that comes from my lips can fix it, but I want her to know I am there for her, or lift her spirits in some way, console, I don't know. But my lack of speeching skills when it counts was really put to the test this week. My little sister lost her best friend. What do you say? A once vibrant 21 year old is suddenly taken from this world by a heart attack, and I had no words. Her friend has the type of personality that makes it impossible to ever imagine her dead; so smiley, so full of life. To her full credit, my sister has taken this loss with all the grace of some one much older and wiser. She is not angry, she knows there is a plan, but she is sad to not have her friend anymore. I have been lucky to not have ever lost anyone close to me, and in any matter, we both grieve so differently. I don't want to be alone when I get bad news, she like time alone to reflect. So, I don't know what moves are the right ones.

When life leaves you speechless, what do you do?

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Big Daddy Diesel said...

Over the summer, my S/O was diagnosed with diabetes and 2 weeks later, my mother was diagnosed with cancer. Your right, there is not words to confort it, I found myself getting a little angry with all the questions i was being asked, I didnt want to talk about it, ALL I WANTED was someone to be there, not to talk, to help take my mind off things, hang out, do what ever without mentioning what I was dealing with, basically giving me a hall pass for a couple of hours by trying to habe fun, I hope this helps

Christy @ My Dirt Road Anthem: A Runner's Blog said...

There are no words. I wish I had some brilliant insight here but I don't. Sending you and your sis comforting thoughts.

Meredith said...

I was just talking about this with friends the other night. Some don't know what to say or don't want to say the wrong thing - so they say nothing. Nothing is not okay. To just let them know you love them and are there is the best thing. Like everyone says, there are never the "right" words. But, "I'm thinking of you", and "I love you" can never be wrong.

Julie D. said...

so so sorry for your sister and her BFs family. How very sad. You can only just be there for her. Love her and listen. hang in there.